Written with Love by GerohPaul
The 3 types of Relationships where only one leads to true hapiness.
- Relationships of pleasure.
Partners who are about sex, drugs and rock ‘n’ roll. You share soulless, passionate sex and playful banter — but they’re about the body or ego. They never soul-nurture you with insight and growth, so they never bring real-deal happiness. Basically, instead of finding a soul mate, you’re simply finding a sex-mate and/or an ego-mate.
2. Relationships of utility.
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Partners you spend time with in hopes of garnering status, power, money and beauty. Basically, a rich guy with a trophy girl. Again, this is about body or ego and doesn’t bring true joy. Again, instead of finding a soul mate, you’re finding a sex-mate, ego-mate, status-mate, and/or wallet-mate – none of which are long term satisfying mates!
3. Relationships of shared virtue.
Partners who challenge and inspire you to grow into your highest potential and nurture your soul.
A good example is when your partner says, “You make me want to be a better person.”
There are 3 Kinds of Relationships And Only 1 Brings True Happiness
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This type of relationship brings true happiness! When you prioritize seeking a partner who supports you becoming your best self — instead of crushing on “superficial lures”(hotness, funniness, smartness, success, etc.)
— you wind up with a soul mate/a Prince Charming/a definite keeper! With this in mind, if you want to find true happiness in your relationship, you must take time to see past your partner’s “superficial lures” (hotness, funniness, smartness, success, etc.) and look inside to get to know their “core self” – or their “true soul.”
Unfortunately, as I’d discovered with my ex, those fumes of chemistry can sometimes dizzy someone into making stupid love choices. That’s why it’s important to remember: Hot, steamy chemistry eventually fades. What’s always left beneath is a person’s true soul.
If you want to be happy, you must seek a good-hearted, ethical soul who brings you great growth.
Most popular superficially alluring quality is humor.
Most people are taken in a Silly way mostly if the man is funny or if the woman has a strong sense of humor.
Unfortunately, funniness is a mere decorative quality — sometimes developed to avoid talking about real-life issues (take notes:- mostly, funny people escape from serious issues of life…
That fabulous ha-ha-ha laughter often gives way to tears when the person’s true character — true soul — shows up as one that avoids honest communication, warm empathy and the desire for growth.
When you try to connect soul to soul — heart to heart — with a partner who’s been super funny, You often find that you’re blocked by a wall of joke that you may not manage to climb.
Basically, friggin’ funny is only the tiniest tip of a person.
Meanwhile, a person’s soul is a person’s foundation! For the record: Aristotle wasn’t against finding someone friggin’ funny or friggin’ sexy or friggin’ rich. He believed these human’s qualities were good for stirring up passion, which humans need to be our fullest selves! But Aristotle recognized “superficial lures” and material goods were simply what he called “means to the ends” of happiness, not “the final ends.”
The final ends for happiness is to Grow into your most esteemed self.
As Aristotle said: “Men imagine the causes of happiness lie in external goods.
It is therefore not wise to play to the instrument rather than the skill of the player.” All people can be good people but our characters determines who we eventually choose be.
Basically, it doesn’t matter how rich a guy is if his behavior makes you twitchy and miserable. While on the subject of money…
Aristotle was no fan of slackers either. Aristotle recognized that being or dating poor brought its share of problems. He even admitted the lack of a certain amount of wealth was as much an obstacle to happiness as deprivation of freedom. Plus, he gladly accepted that some wealth was needed to be happy. Just as exciting bodily pleasures were needed. But again, wealth and bodily pleasures were mere means to the ends of happiness.
It is advisable that you Nourish your soul, so you can reach your most esteemed level of self.
A big secret to relationship happiness is to Stop focusing on finding a Mr. or Ms. Right! Start focusing on finding Life Plan Right.
When a Mr. or Ms. Potential Right comes along, you must ask yourself if this person will lead you to Life Plan Right or Life Plan Wrong.
As you get to know your partner, look to see if they: Offer you exciting growth as well as exciting grope Have developed good character
— so they’ll be a positive influence on your character development.
If your partner scores is empathetic, caring, and easy to adjust, then you’re likely in Prince/Princess Charming territory.
Finally I advice you to Break bad patterns in love for a better life.
Walk out of that toxic relationship, stop waiting for the right person and start being the right partner to your expected person.
Believe me, it’s just a matter of time before you get your better half from the streets.